reply to Janna

Submitted by JLA (United States), Jan 6, 2007 at 19:45

No self respecting Muslim Moroccan man would ever ask you for $1600 to marry. It is their responsibility to pay for the marriage papers along with the dowry. It certainly doesn't cost $1600 either (unless he's talking about the "ceremony" too) My husband paid for everything when I was in Morocco. He's never asked me for money and says what I make is mine to keep and what he makes pays for our living expenses.

It sounds like you've been asking the right questions so far. You have a gut feeling that something isn't quite right. My gut feeling from hearing your story is you're correct in your thinking. My husband would have much rather lived in Morocco but since I still have children and have a responsibility to them he came here until they are old enough to be on their own. But it's back to Morocco someday for us. Life there is a lot different then it is in the States. It's more difficult in someways but pretty laid back.

My husband says all the time that he is a simple man and living a simple, but good life is much more important to him than making a lot of money.

I think if I were in your shoes I would reconsider this situation. Best of luck to you Janna in whatever you decide.

J

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