To Aysha looking for support

Submitted by jewels (United States), Jan 12, 2007 at 15:30

Hi Aysha,

I have been following these blogs for quite some time now and have found your comments to be most enlightening. Just because you stand firm and say things as they are. just like everyone else here I have come across such a man, a man that had claimed that he cared about me and after two months he finally reveals to me that he was still married and that he loved me but cannot leave his wife because of the kids.

I stayed Aysha, I stayed with him because I thought I was able to handle being the other woman for a while, until I realized that I was becoming more and more abused in the head with him claiming that once he got his papers, he would be able to go home and see the kids, finalize his divorce with his wife and then spend the rest of his life with me...I stayed with him for a year, an entire year of him co-mingling with my family, my little girl and everyone close to me. it was only when I converted to Islam that I finally had enough mind to leave him for good. In all this, I hold claim to my blame in it as well and since then have not looked back on this relationship, I thought that I was lucky at that time to find a more attentive person and a man that always took the time to read the Quran to me, to share the greatness of Islam. He did leave an impression and yet he also left a huge mess behind as well, for goodness sake I was shopping for clothes for his kids with him and maintained true to him, I don't know what I thought . I would get out of the whole relationship Aysha, I have never met a more convincing and outrageous man, how is it that they have such huge effects on us women?

I may never know the answer to this question but I was just hoping Aysha that you could help me stay true to Islam and believe that not all muslim men are this way.

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