Raquel "Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men"

Submitted by Ab (Australia), Jan 12, 2007 at 19:06

Hi Raquel,

I came across your post and figured I'd put my two cents in, considering I've living in Jordan the majority of my life before migrating and moving across the borders from the U.S.

I won't get into much details but I could guarantee you this man is simply after a ticket to the U.S and you will NOT have the rights he talks to you about. Jordan is a relatively poor country; if you live there, you are either rich or poor. A middle class barely exsists anymore and for him to state that he left the U.S to make money in Jordan just seems ludicrous. I personally look at it this way; Would I rather be in the U.S making $1200/month or would I rather be in Jordan "which by all means is a nice country and all" making at tops $400/700 a month?

Wages in Jordan are limited and people live on the concept of "pay check to pay check", mind you I'm not generalising the upper class. This guy is not being honest when he says he wants to get hitched as soon as possible. I know many muslim friends and the fact of the matter is; if it's not OK for him to talk to a girl before he gets married why is he doing it? This is where the whole arranged marriage comes into place. Hence this guy sounds like he's looking for a ticket out the same way %80 of the country is trying to find a way out, and what other easier way of doing it than getting married to woman who doesn't speak the language.

You can always get in touch with the U.S Embassy in Amman "the capital of Jordan" and explain your situation to them and then ask them for to e-mail you a brochure with facts and figures from the country. Many applicants go through the Embassy once they get married and eventually get turned down becuase the marriage isn't bonafide in their opinion. You can reach the website on http://amman.usembassy.gov

I hope my two cents help you out with whichever decision you make and may you always remain happy! God bless,

Ab.

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