NEED HELP to understand TURKISH MEN!

Submitted by ukshoegal (United Kingdom), Jan 14, 2007 at 08:13

Hello all,

I need your advice to uderstand a Turkish man that I fell in love with.

I met him on my business trip to Istanbul some time ago. He was shy, kind and very down to earth. We both liked each other, so although nothing happened, we decided to stay in touch.We chatted on MSN, on the phone untill he went back to his parents for Kurban Bayram at the end of last year. I didnt hear much from him, and suddenly on his return to Istanbul, he said he cannot be with me and he is not suitable to be with me. I dont understand what the heck has happened. Because he told me he wants me to be his girlfriend and we even planed to meet in Istanbul soon.

He didnt explain why, so I'm really confused. He was so kind and genuine but now he behaves like a total stranger. Is it a normal thing that Turkich men fall in love with foreign girls and try to do long-distance and suddenly realise the it was all a mistake? or could it be his family was against him going out with a foreign girl? ( Im a Japanese living in the UK) How influential are the family to a grown up Turkish man?

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