Married to an Egyptian

Submitted by Ceria (United States), Jan 18, 2007 at 04:12

I have had an experience with marrying an Egyptian man. I met him in the internet, he is a religious man - 10 years my senior, he came to marry me in Singapore.

Unfortunately my family was against this marriage, nevertheless I went on with it. A day after we married, my mum together with my brother and brother in law came to my house and treated him like dog. I was furious but due to his pride he stayed with me for about 2 weeks and then went back to Cairo. That 2 weeks I had with him was beautiful - no don't get me wrong - it was'nt all about sex, we had very little of it - but he was good Imam - we prayed together everytime and he waited for me at home while I go out and work - I played the role of a good Asian wife - I would rush home while he waited for me at the bus stop and I prepared dinner and he would help me with the dishes. Then he would teach me or tell me stories on Islam. After he left we communicated very little, and after about 8 months of separation I filed for divorce. He willingly let me go - he said he has nothing to offer me and since his business failed, he has no means to support me. I never tried to be an Arab woman, I cooked Asian food and behave as an Asian, but he wants me to observe my prayers strictly and cover my hair.

Now after 3 years he is in touch with me again and want me to remarry him - his business is doing well and he showed me some pictures of his business. He wants me to remarry him in Cairo because he hated my family. But I will not go back to him, it is not because he is not a good man but because I found another man - another Egyptian, a doctor residing in Medina. This friendship/relationship has been going on for 4 months now and he is coming over to see me here, this time I will not allow my family to screw up the whole relationship, and I have warned this new man as well.

I have nothing bad to say about Arab man or Egyptian man - it is simply how I behave as a muslim woman and as a muslim wife. He wants me back because I am good for him and he had lived with me and he knew how I treated him.

I am treating this doctor the same way as I treated my Egyptian Ex husband with love and respect and I will stick to my principal and my policy - I practice Islam and I prayed with him but that does not mean that I cannot go out and work, or put make-up or be beautiful. I play my role as a wife with my knowledge and not try to be anybody else and will not want anybody else to tell me what is good for me. My idea of a good husband is one who can pray before me and I pray behind him.

So if you have had any bad experience with Arab man or Egyptian man - it is simply your luck because at the moment I am very happy having a relationship with the Egyptian Doctor.

Anybody wish to comment on this - you are all welcome!!

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