Almost in the same boat

Submitted by babyblue013@aol.com (United States), Jan 18, 2007 at 12:43

I know how youre feeling. me and my boyfriend who is muslim were together only a year, but we were looking for a condo to move in together we were talking about marriage and then it ended. I'm the one that broke it off cause i want a husband who will let my child be baptized. I want my husband to go shopping for Christmas presents and open them with me on christmas morning. And my boyfriend couldnt do that.

My parents are happy cause they didnt like that he was black. my grandparents would never speak to me if i married a black guy cause i'm white. I am so unhappy and no one knows it. All my friends have moved away so i dont hang out with anyone. i sit in my room watch TV go to school, work and cry myself to sleep every night. I know why i ended it and the reasons i dont doubt, but what i do doubt is will anyone ever love me or will i ever love someone the way we loved each other. He would do anything for me except give up his religion or beliefs.

I understand why just like i cant do the same. But i dont know what to do. its been a month and i still cry everyday sometimes more than others; i still feel so unhappy and depressed. I have thought about seeing a counselor but they cant help me get over him. I wanted to ask you though did you ever offer to convert?

My boyfriend told me that would be the greatest gift i could give but i had to say no. It makes me wish religion didnt exist and then i could be happy again with him. I know ill get over him at some point just like you will but i'm sure we are thinking the same thing. how long will that take. Four years is a long time. if i was you and was considering converting i would go see him and ask him, if i convert will you be with me, if he says yes then he really loves you. If you want to talk you can email me at babyblue013@aol.com.

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