It is not about Islam

Submitted by Ceria (United States), Jan 19, 2007 at 01:55

It is not about Islam - it is more to culture. It is normal for Indian Muslim family to marry some one within their circle of people. As far as Islam is concern, you are free to marry any muslim you want in fact it is one of the criteria.

In the Indian culture - whether they are Islam or Hindu, their children are brought up to be loyal to their parents whether it is son or daughter and their sons are supposed to care for their parents. It is very rare that we Malays will want to marry someone within the Indian Muslim community, because of the different ways in which they are brought up.

As for you, I think that it is better that you never marry him and he is open and truthful about it - otherwise you will end up in divorce because you cannot keep the relationship healthy with his parent having to fuss over your marriage. In our Malay community things are a bit relaxed and we are open to different opinions and behaviour.

So please do not confuse with Muslim, Islam and culture.

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