An educated comment

Submitted by Mike (United States), Jan 19, 2007 at 13:19

I am dating an afghan girl (and I'm American white guy).... I have read a lot about middle-eastern cultrures and all that...... Honour killings are almost exclusively conducted to cleanse the family of a woman who has engaged in sexual activity outside of marriage, regardless of what culture, country, or religion she had sex with.... So honour killing happens after a woman has had sex outside of a marriage.... This is true especially in Iran and afghanistan, of course it may vary from culture to culture.... example: the killing of Princess Misha'al of Saudi Arabia (look it up).

These extreme forms of marital discipline are more a product of culture than Islam, though Islam has everything to do with it.....

If a non-muslim man were to run off with a muslim girl, then her family and friends and everybody she ever knew would disown her.... she would be blacklisted and never accepted into the community again.... So gaining approval of her parents is imperative, but difficult of course....

Ok, just a disclaimer: this is from my own experience with an Afghan girl who just immigrated to the U.S.

Also, look things up before you start posting...... For example: those attacks on women made in India are actaully because the woman refused the sexual advance of a man (sometimes her husband, sometimes a non-marital affair). Of course there are exceptions, but the majority of these attacks are in this realm....

I use wikipedia, the Koran, and just plain googling and reading reputable sources..... Thats how I stumbled across this site......

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