I'm married to a Turkish man

Submitted by Karissa (United States), Jan 21, 2007 at 09:58

Hi,
just wanted to let you know that you have to be careful when you think of marrying outside of your country. I am married to a Turkish man that I met a few years back over the net. We talked for over a year before I decided to g there and marry with him. Sometimes we would spend as much as 8 to 10 hours in one day talking.

I went to Turkey and 6 weeks with him and his family. Everyone there treated me so nice, I even traveled to meet his grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. We talked about me staying there, but he convinced me that life there is so hard and that if we stayed there, I would have a terrible life and so would he.

When I came back to the USA, I had to start a new life. I found out that two days after I got back here, he had already made a new id and was talking to other women around my state. I confronted him about it, but he swore to me that he was not serious about it, and was just playing around on the net. I beleived him and later I forgave him and told him if he did it again then I was finished. I later found that he had another Id and there he was talking to mostly turkish women. Again I forgave him for it. He swears on his families life that he loves me and doesnt want anyone except me. He has sent me money several times when I have fell on hard times. He has to wait up until late at nights to talk to me, and he doesnt get much rest.

For the last year , I have been working on getting his visa, but not doing it too fast, because I have been wanting to wait and see if anything new happens. So far , I havent discovered anything that he has done to send up any more red flags. If anyone has gone thru a similar circumstance, and it worked out , or even if it didnt, I would like to know.

I still cant figure out why he married me, he is very handsome, he is younger than me , and I am sure he could have chosen a rich woman, who wasn't divorced, and who had the money to bring him here without any problems. I dont know why he spends so much time with me , talking to me on the net, sometimes he gets only about 4 hours of sleep before he has to go to work. I also dont know how he can swear on all his families life that he wants only me , if all he wants is the USA.

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