To Danna

Submitted by Jessica (United States), Jan 25, 2007 at 20:52

Danna,

My heart breaks for you. I truly know these feelings. Your words are what my life had been.

You say his mother acts brainwashed. Well, they say how a man treats is mother is the way he will treat his wife. You have been married for 6 years, do you think he will change? You have to ask yourself if this is the life you want because you know how it is and this is how it will always be this way. You accept him and live how you have been, only you let him do all that he wants you shut your mouth and you are a doormat. Or you get off your seat get some drive behind you and confidance and make your self happy. You will never come first with him, he will. You will always be second. He will always try to beat you down so you will feel like you need to do more to make him happy. It's sick, I don't think alot of these men have much education or common sense.

My ex-husband is very handsome also. I loved that. We have been told we are a beautiful couple and I was always very proud of that and he was also. He always told me we have so much passion in are relationship. Lots of passion. But Danna, you put a drink in his hand and a woman within his arm reach and he was a total monster. He has embarassed me so badly in front of friends, he kissed a woman in front of me at a bar! It does not matter how beautiful you are they just want their ego stroked all the time. Can you relate to this?

You should not have to try so hard to make a relationship work. It should be a team effort. Someone in this thread said, 'You have a God given right to persue your happiness.' I have copied this on a piece of paper and it is taped to the top on my computer screen. I see it every day and ever day I get stronger and every day I get more and more happier.

God has given you wonderful parents, don't you think all they want for you is to be truly happy?

Much Love- Jessica

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