Distrust

Submitted by Charlotte (United States), Jan 26, 2007 at 02:39

I would have EXTREME distrust for this man if I were you.

I am also a professor, comparative religions. I'm equally an American citizen. I am engaged to a man from Turkey who was raised in an Islamic family. I do not comprehend the hurry your new associate is expressing. I have encountered the mentality before of Muslim men pushing the marriage issue because dating is not looked upon favorably in Islam, but I have never heard of it in such a fast manner. Two weeks? This is simply insane!

My lover and I are going on two years and didn't even begin to talk marriage until a year ago. Love is love my dear, no matter what country or what religion. And when a man truly feels profound love he will go through any trial for the woman who is to be his mate. My fiance has to recitfy my life to his family. I am an atheist, American, a divorcee and a mother! He has waited two years (and shall wait at least another) for me to give him the committment he desires. In Islam, marriage to an infidel is forbidden, but even the idea of eternal damnation could not keep him from me. He is willing to endure anything to keep us together, frankly, thats the kind of love a marriage requires. Anything less is speculative.

Theism and culture are irrelevant when it comes to coupling for the sake of love. To tell yourself otherwise is to negate human nature. His refusal to wait (and his threatening you with his withdrawal if you don't comply) is screaming that this is about locating the soonest possible way to immigrate to America, not that he specifically is interested in you as a wife. You will do as you wish, but I hope in the least you keep your eyes peeled.

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