Is this Syrian Man Honorable?

Submitted by Keri (Canada), Jan 30, 2007 at 14:27

I am a 37yo mother of two. He is a never married Muslim man in Syria. We met online. He is very poor and is supporting his mother, grandmother and sister. His father is deceased.

I have offered him money and he got very angry and offended and said that he would NEVER take money from a woman. I would offer this $$ to any friend who was on hard times.

He is applying to come here as a Temporary Foreign worker, and has started the application process. We have talked of marriage, but he has said that he could not marry me just for his personal gain, and that if he married me this way...without knowing if he could love me that he would not have respect. He wants to come here to get to know me first.

I have suggested coming to see him, and he agreed, but said that it is his duty to pay for my way and to escort me in my travels, and since he is poor, he would be unable to do this. He refuses my offer of paying for myself, and said that it woud be disrespectful.

I have read his reference letters from employers, and they all say that he is honest, and respectful.

My question: from your experience, is this an honorable man? He has made me no promises, and said that he is beginning to care for me, but cannot take advantage of my finances..he said that if God is willing, we will do things the legal way.

Comments?

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