To Alper

Submitted by Karissa (United States), Jan 30, 2007 at 19:34

Alper,

I couldnt have said it better. I really am not sure what is my husband's intention. When I married with him I really didnt have even a doubt about his feelings for me. I stayed in Turkey with him and his family for almost 3 months and in the same house. I got along very well with all of his family and we even went to vist his extended family for 2 weeks in another town.

I am really worried now because you said that he would want just a virgin. I am not, I have kids from a previous marriage and he and his entire family know about them. My husband is very jealous and he does expect me to sacrifice for him. I dont mind it, because I love him.

He wants me to always wear two shirts and little make-up. I have to call him very often and if I dont write him everyday he gets upset. Our relationship is not really new. We spent more than 15 months on the internet just talking, sometimes even 8 hours in one day, and we talked everyday. It is still the same but with my job and his, it is very difficult, so now we talk just a few hours, and about 5 times a week.

I cant say my husband is using me for anything because I dont know it. I want to believe that he is in love with me like I am with him. He has done some wrong things, but , I am not sure if that is just because we have been far for so long, or if there is another intention in his head. He isn't from a tourist area. We have known each other for 2 1/2 years.

Is it really so easy for a turkish man to put on such a good act for soo long? I am just confused, maybe because I read soo many stories on the net about men using women. IF you have any comments, I would like you to send them to my email Im2lost2think@hotmail.com...

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