Your Turkish man

Submitted by Kathy (United States), Feb 4, 2007 at 07:28

Hi, well, you have caught him in lies so thats not a good sign. Its sounds like you put him on the defensive end so that is why he came up with this story about his mom being sick. It wasnt a reason to lie to you about it but i believe that is why he did it. Now about him being older and wanting children, well most muslim men want children to carry on the name not all but most do so thats why he wants a child with you its just their way.

But you seem to have alot of problems with this guy so I would say to just move on and leave him alone cause I think you two are just to different to be compatable that is my view. You dont seem to have any feeling for this man. About him being home sick that would be only natural. remember his family and friends are there and most of all his culture living here is like being a fish out of water and you said he had a card till 2010 so he has time to get this settled here for his paper work so I think he really was home sick, but didnt want to tell you that cause he knew how you would react. so he came up with the sick mother story.

Now put yourself in his shoes. if you were living in another country wouldnt you miss your family and friends to after awhile thats just natural, nothing strange about it. If you have no feeling for this older good looking turkish man then what does it matter if he hasnt called you or if he does have a girl friend back home. Or does it hit a nerve? You also mentioned how he talked about americans. well that isnt good but he was raised with that being pounded into his head, so ask him if you talk to him again if we're all so bad here then why come here. tell him it makes no sense if you dont like the people here, then maybe you should think about going somewhere else.

There are more good muslims in the world that want the same as we do, just a peaceful life and they want everyone to get along just as much as we do. but in all cultures there are the crazies that see things differently. This is just my view . I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt before I start throwing stones. well anyways, I wrote alot too, but you take care and good luck. Kathy

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