To Cherese

Submitted by Kathy (United States), Feb 7, 2007 at 05:28

Hi Cherese, I dont think being 26 is that old to not be married yet. In most of these cultures the man has to come up with a dowry which can be very expensive to marry, and maybe he just hasnt found the right girl yet. Most of them want to have a decent job before they marry. they want to have money saved up before starting a new life with someone. But not all are like this. My husband was 40 and had never been married before.

As for you wondering if he will change how he acts towards you if this relationship deepens, well don't act any differently with him than you would with an american man. Have you ever hugged a male friend in front of him, and if so how did he react ? look for these little clues. And don't be afraid to ask questions. come right out and ask him if he's married. its your life and you want to make sure and tell him so.

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