Need advice to tell my grandparents I'm dating a black muslim man

Submitted by michelle (United States), Feb 8, 2007 at 21:41

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and we have been through many ups and downs, with the whole him being Muslim and me being Methodist problems. And we have agreed and compromised about many things. but I have a bigger problem, my grandparents. Well my mom, dad, sister and one grandmother have refused to let me tell my other grandparents that we are together, even though we are planning on moving in together. They think it will give my grandfather a heart attack and my other grandparents will disown me.

My boyfriend just says look I don't mind them not being in our lives and your parents (who don't really like him because they don't want me to covert) will get over it. I don't know what to do my mom says im turning away from my family and im choosing him over my family. I told her that I can't help who I love and if they loved me they would accept him. I want my family to be at my wedding, all of them. I don't understand how his family can be so accepting but my parents can't accept a guy that makes me happy. Anybody have the same problem or any advice on how I can get them to accept him.

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