I'm dating an Americanized Moroccan Man for 6 months

Submitted by Mahasen (United States), Feb 12, 2007 at 16:45

I must say that I am as confused as a lot of the other women on this page.

I met my Moroccan 6 mos. ago at a club in NYC. He is 23 I am 26, when we met he told me he was 24. Turns out that he was 22 when I met him...anyway. I had just gotten out of a three year relationship so I wasn't looking for anything serious. During our first month he was coming on really strong and at one point even told me that I was his girlfriend. I couldn't understand how if this guy just met me a month ago he wanted to make me his girl.

Time goes on and he treats me so wonderfully, with so much respect and like a princess so I start to look at him in a different light. I begin to start acting like a girlfriend, for example always available, being really sweet to him, etc. trying to see where this would all go....well the minute I start to do that he turns around and tells me that he's not looking for anything serious right now because he knows himself and he likes to disappear from time to time and that he doesn't want to hurt me. This is about three months into the relationship.

So I take this all in, totally confused but I accept and begin to regress...well once I do that he starts calling me asking me why I haven't called him or whatever! Anyway from this point on I just take it for what it is which is a relationship that isn't steady but gives me what I need right now. Well the other night as he's leaving my house he says "bye, I love you!", as a reaction I say it back. So I start letting all the feelings that I had before come out again because now I'm thinking okay this guy is falling in love with me. This gets the wheels in my head turning because I really think he is such a wonderful person, educated, ambitious, and so gorgeous! I would love to see if we can have a future together.

Well as coincidence may have it, the other day his friend calls me and we get into this conversation about my guy. He proceeds to tell me that his friend is really into me, that he has said that he thinks I am the girl for him and that he could even be in love with me! This is great news! The only thing is that my guy does pull his disappearing act once in a while, that is the only problem that I have with this guy. His friend tells me this is because if he showed me how much he really liked me then I wouldn't want him as much as I do!

If this guy showed me how much he really liked me I'd be on cloud nine! My question is why is his friend giving me the inside scoop and even went as far as telling me to change my number so that I could give him a taste of his own medicine. I went ahead and did it but now I'm questioning his friend's intentions. His friend even told me that if he ever met a girl like me he would stop looking! He said that he wants to attend our wedding and that his family would accept me because I'm half Muslim. I was raised Catholic because my mother is Dominican. The only thing Arabic about me is my name and my looks. I also have a child from a previous relationship this is why I never thought we could be together but his friend tells me that his family is liberal! I don't know what to believe! Any advice from someone that has been with a Moroccan man?

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