Steph

Submitted by K (Ireland), Feb 22, 2007 at 03:56

Maybe steph, were you are living with your husband it is aceptable for this kind of behavour.

Were my bf lives in Antayla in the west of Turkey it really is alot different. I could not live like you do at the moment and as i said it would be great if you could get out of your situation, for both you and your daughter.

I live in Ireland, with my own house, so i am very independant and could never never let a man! tell me what to wear or say or do. To me a relationshipship is all about equality and working together as a team. If my bf wants to come here to me he will have to get his visa on his own merits. I woul not marry him or have any children untill we are very comfortable with each others routines and ways, as of course they will be a little different.

As Antalya is becoming a real cosmopolitan city, most people under the age of 30 that are well educated are very modern in there beliefs and daily life styles.

I know it is alot different in the Arab world, as traditions and religion is practiced far more seriously. to me if a man hit me or told me not to leave the house or anythings like that, it would be the last word or action he did.

I know its easier for me to say these things as i am not in your situation. I hope you seek some help. Use your time on the internet to find a way out. Good luck steph, hope things work out for you.

Regards

K

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