Im not sure you can tar every person with the same brush

Submitted by L (United Kingdom), Feb 23, 2007 at 21:22

I have read a lot of these comments with interest, as i have recently began dating an Indian guy who is muslim. What i would say to anybody else reading these comments is you can only go by your own experiences, if you feel that you are close to the person you are seeing you should not feel the need to doubt their intentions.

Like Kathy has said, i think people need to realise they are independent women who should stand up for themselves and i always believe if you let yourself be treated like dirt with no respect you will be. All men can be the same no matter what culture or religion they come from. The guy that i have started seeing is sweet and appears genuine i have known him for around 8 months now and he is a doctor, and everyone who meets him instantly loves him, not because he is trying to gain anything from this he is genuinely a lovely guy.

Obviously our relationship will encounter obstacles but it depends how you deal with things, I for one have already spoke to him and explained that i wont stop working so he can support me, and he does not expect me to do this. This relationship allows me to learn and grow as a person and i feel he is also growing as i can teach him things about the british way of life that he has not experienced before. Dont forget that when these men begin to have feelings for you they are risking alot, their religion and probably family will believe that they should be with a muslim girl and they should not be seen to be having female relations outside of marriage. So in my eyes these things are give and take and you need to remember who you are and what your true values are.

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