I'm sorry for your loss

Submitted by Julie (European Union), Feb 25, 2007 at 14:45

Hello Julia

I am sorry for you on the loss of your mother. I can't get my head around some Turkish men's behaviour. Not all - I know there are some decent men around. I have had an on/off relationship with a Turk for quite a while now, he disappears to Turkey, then back to England. He needs me when he is here and couldn't care less when he is not.

I have finished with him many times because of his secret ways, the last time being Friday. I called him today to arrange to collect some of his things and he acts like nothing has happened and when can he see me again ????? As it is I am busy ( well not really ) - but he can wait while I sort my feelings out . Tomorrow is my birthday but he wouldn't know it . My turk can't face any kind of unpleasantness - no one can tell him a story of an operation, illness, tragedy, accident etc. He is squeemish and says he is too emotional, what sort of man is that ?. One who would never be around when needed and no help or support at all I think. For all of that , my problem is that I have seen his vulnerable, kind, fun side and in some ways I need him too. I wish I didn't though and am working hard to see sense, that's why I log on this site.

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