OK--Yet ANOTHER Person In Love with a Moroccan Man

Submitted by Debbie H. (United States), Feb 25, 2007 at 14:58

OK, everybody, here goes. After being involved in online chat/dating stuff and hearing from probably 500-600 guys in 6-7 months, I met my Moroccan. He is TOTALLY DIFFERENT from any of the other men I have met. He told me upfront he is poor and lonely. He is much younger than me, but I usually hear from younger guys anyway. He on the dating sites stated clearly that he was looking to get married. So, so far, no surprises.

Anway, we have chatted online for 4-5 hours a night for 4 months. I have watched his face and reactions that long also. I am going to visit him in a few weeks in Morocco. I have met his mom and sister face to face online. He always does what he says he will--appears online as promised, calls when promised.

I have to add that he has led a pretty independent life, working since 16, living in 4 cities, making his way. He also lived with a woman for 4 years, who ended up sleeping with his best friend. I know this is against the law, but no big deal to me. When he caught them, he didn't hurt either one, he said he just felt like crying. He told them to leave and didn't see the woman as she moved out of that city. Then he moved back to his small hometown, where he plays soccer and cards with his friends, has a few drinks occasionallly, and chats online with me. He is now almost 29.

So...now he wants to get married. He is Muslim, I am Christian. We have talked about our beliefs and expectations. He wants to celebrate Ramadan, but I don't have to. He will open Christmas gifts with my family. We have agreed to respect each other's religion, and not demand that the other person change. I can find no faults with this guy. His friends tell me they have never seen him angry or fighting. He has no interest in drama, just seems to want a peaceful married life. While I am sure he is naive because of his age, most of his friends are older and he seems much older than his age.

He would just as soon have me come live there as come here. But I have to work a few more years to have enough years in to retire. So we plan to have him come here. He is willing to sign a prenup also. He wants to work here, knows I work, is willing to cook and clean, work in the yard, go to the clubs, etc.

So, come on guys, your comments????? I'm looking forward to your thoughts......Debbie

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