To Debbie

Submitted by Jen (United States), Feb 26, 2007 at 14:09

Hi Debbie,

I am also a Christian, married to a Muslim for a little over two years. There are only two things I would advise. Depending on the how deep your faith is as a Christian, please know that we should not be unequally yoked. Obviously, I disregarded that when I married my husband, so I guess I'm one to talk, right? If you decide to marry him, that is your choice. But it does make things more difficult that if you were marrying a Christian man. Having said that, it doesn't mean it can't work.

The other thing I would say is to be careful when dealing with someone who lives over there and is looking for someone over here. His intentions may be good, but for your own sake, be careful. My husband was already here and in school when we met. He didn't have his green card yet, but was in the process of being sponsored through the company that he was working for. I was able to see on a daily basis whether what he was telling me was true or not. You don't have that luxury with him being overseas.

Your guy sounds pretty liberal, even more than my husband was when we first met. If you do decide to marry and bring him here, see how he acts before you start doing the paperwork for his green card. Ultimately, you hold the key to him getting his green card. I was overly cautious about my husband's motives when we first met, but he has turned out to be a great guy. But as you have probably read, they aren't all great guys. Which is why you need to be very careful.

If you ever want to know more, feel free to email me at: jenny.razzak@gmail.com. I'd love to talk with you.

Jen

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