good relationship with turkish man

Submitted by esli (Belgium), Mar 10, 2007 at 04:27

You are right, not all moslim men are violent. I have a relationship with a Turkish men for about 12years and we are married since 6 years. We have a really good relationship. We both work, but as he is home earlier then me, we always cooks, we clean together, he is not scared of doing washing and ironing. So we really do everthing together in our household. He supports me in everything and wants me to have a lot of friends and other contacts.

He is also not very religious. He does eat porc and he does not take part in the Ramadan. We are both equal in our relationship, as any good relationship should be. And that is not an exception, I know many mixed couples who have a really good relationship. I think it depends how different in opinions you are as a couple to make it work or not.

I have learned in this 12years that in this kind of relationship you have to give much more then you take. And that is from both sides. You really have to start to put all your principles and traditions aside and be open minded about the other culture you are geeting into. Everthing what is normal for you maybe not normal for him.

Start with learning his language. That is very important if you want to understand your boyfriend completely. I have learned also from watching other couples , that the biggest problem is they don't talk but just asume the other knows what they mean. That is not true. You have to speak it out, moslim culture is really very different in its habbits. In the beginning we use to have an argument because I made a joke and for him it was serious. So know, when I make a joke I tell him, it was a joke. Ofcourse he also has his negative things, like every man.

My Husband came to live in Belgium with me. That was very difficult for him and dispite the fact that he is really open minded, we now think about it to go and live in Turkey. It is to difficult for him. In Turkey he had a nice job and was respected while in Belgium he is treated as a strainger who has to do the dirty jobs.

So please let us read some possitive experiences, and can believe the are all bad.

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