To Amber- from a broken hearted Texan in love with a crazy Moroccan

Submitted by Friendly Texan (United States), Mar 10, 2007 at 20:47

Hi Amber,

Is your muslim from Morocco, Turkey or Egypt? I truly wish you the best of luck.

I met a Moroccan man on the internet, talked on the phone and foolishly I've sent him money. I've talked to his family on the phone, seen them on the internet, etc. I did not do as you though, I haven't been to Morocco to meet him, 'was' planning on going this summer. We've been talking for a year now. But my Moroccan man does not want to live in the poverty of his country. He said we'd have to live with his family since he is unemployed.

He wants to come to the USA so we can save money and go back to Morocco to start our own business. Obviously he has thought this through carefully, without my input too. I have a good paying job here and he knows this. I've been open and honest, perhaps too quickly. I told him I want to quit my job and come be with him in Morocco, since he says he wants to marry me and he 'says' he tells everyone I am his wife. So the wife here, wanted to come to Morocco to be a wife with him there, not in the USA.

My Moroccan said NO, he is a realist, that this is no way to live since I am used to living differently, but I like the simple things in life and I am not materialist. I would have quit my job and been his wife in Morocco. Even an American living in Morocco with her husband questioned him on this, but he would not budge, he said no we are to live in USA, he doesn't want to live in Morocco with me in a poor way.

But then I have been thinking about this, cause I was going to go marry him in the summer, suddenly flood lights came on..I was thinking if I was a Moroccan woman he fell in love with he'd have no problem living in Morocco with her. But since I'm american he feels he has many opportunties and choices. So wrong, did he ever misjudge me. I am not going to go marry him in Morocco, nor do I want to be with a man who will love me unconditionally, in Morocco or in the USA.

This was my wake up call and my heart is broken, but I will get back on my feet. Beware of this man.........he is charming............but lately he is getting controlling, so as of this day..I've said goodbye to him. I don't care about the money I've sent to him, what I care about is how he deceived me and I hate to say, probably doesn't truly love me. I've heard good stories out here and bad.

Trust your hearts, ask lots of questions and I wish you all the best.

a broken hearted Texan in love with a crazy Moroccan

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