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Submitted by Donna (United States), Mar 11, 2007 at 21:08

I am married to a turkish man that grew up in Ankara and eventually moved to Istanbul when he began going ot the University. He came to the US to expand his education, began work after graduation, and I met him during the period while he was waiting for his greencard. During that time, we became very close. He was and still is the most wonderful man I had ever met. Because I was afraid he for some reason would not get his greencard, I offered to marry him. He refused, stating that although he did want to marry me, he wanted it to be after he got his greencard, because he never wanted me to ever think he had married me for any reason other than love. Soon after recieving his greencard, he ask me to marry him. We married and he hasnt changed a bit. During the time that we were not married, he always helped me financially because he feels it is him who should take care of me, and not the other way around.

He has adopted my children as his own. He works, helps with the house, and the children. I can honestly say, I have never in my life found anyone with a heart as pure as his. He is the most honest, loving, caring, and compassionate person I know, and YES, he is muslim. He follows the Koran as it is written, though he does not follow those other books that were written by men to control women. We fast together (I am christian). His family accepts us completely. I have met them and they are very secular like people, not at all like the people I have read about here.

As far as how I dress (I have seen this on here also) I pick what I wear, but, I have never been one that has my chest hanging out, or skirts short enough to show everything I have. I have always thought that sexy and trashy, are two very different things. Sexy leaves alot for the imagination, trashy doesnt. If you respect yourself, he will respect your choices.

Anyway, I wish the best for you and your turkish man.

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