to Lola

Submitted by AS (India), Mar 20, 2007 at 01:10

in general non westerners think of western girls as easy. blame it on Hollywood or blame it on observations over extended period of times. that is why they dont appreciate their kids getting involved with them. and i am sorry to say that with your confused relation, you would fall into that category too from the point of view of a non-westerner.

western people carry their sense of individualism a bit too far. so you feel right about it so you engage with your ex who is married. so in the sense you hv no issues with marriage. then you cant complain, if he cheats on you, or if he marries you and then leaves you. marriage is a social construct. the fact that you can go against society norms to satisfy your individual needs of love or lust or maybe anything is what scares the non western people against western people, especially women. for them a marriage or relationship is one that involves 2 families and not individuals.

now we may debate what's better. but you can check the high divorce rates in western society. the same is true about family system. single parents, parents not encouraging children for studies n career have started becoming norm in the west, to the extent that UK has been singled as the worst place for kids in the first world. so its all very fuzzy. no system is perfect. but from one's subjective point of view the other looks weird. but i hope you cope with the challenges in your life in the most prudent manner. while there are a whole bunch of social/family problems in the non-western world, they are afraid of the hedonistic tendencies in the western world. its sad though.

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