Virgin bride? Bunch of bs (Turkish)

Submitted by melungeongirl (Turkey), Mar 22, 2007 at 07:24

Ok so I have heard on here and from most of my non American male friends about wanting or having to marry a virgin. Now I bought into it thinking, man these women must be saints. Even though I knew in the US my non American girlfriends were not virgins I thought well maybe when in Rome blah blah blah.

So I will tell you what I've learned. Now I am sure there are virgins out there. But what is considered a virgin to some is questionable. So I ask my boyfriend how many women he slept with and believe me I was not happy with the answer. then I ask him when he lost his virginity he said 18. I ask him what percentage were Turkish he said 80% now I'm thinking of how many women he slept with which was a large amount and 80% were Turkish, well youre following me right?\

So anyway then I said have you ever been with a virgin? He said yes and I said did you have sex with them? He said some not all.Hmmm interesting so I didn't say anything more in that conversation but did ask 2 of my best friends back in the US one is Turkish the other is from Lebanon. when talking to them they both told me they had large amount of sexual partners I ask them the same questions got mostly the same answers, but one thing my boyfriend had not mentioned.

My Turkish male friend said he had sex with some of the virgins but the others only anal sex. Huh exuse? Thats right, thats what I said. His reply was as long as they don't bleed vaginally theyre still virgins. So anal,oral anything else goe's he said correct. My Lebanese friend agreed. Later when I ask my boyfriend his opinion he also agreed.

Now I know there are those who can't go out with a man unless a brother or other male comes along. And some who cant go on dates and arranged marriages and all.And I'm not saying every one does this. I fell while riding a boys bike when I was about 10 years old and bled. So when I lost my virginity I never did. Was I considered not a virgin? Sex is sex in my opinion. And from what I'm seeing, things are just well hid, not so much in the open,or talked about.

One last thing the Lebanese one said if he did want to marry a virgin he would go to the village.This must mean there is some distinction in his mind between those in the city and those in the village. Anyway very very interesting.

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