response from another infidel and Steph

Submitted by Amanda (United States), Mar 24, 2007 at 04:08

First of all, let me state to you that I never said I would leave my daughter. Do not put words in my mouth! I love my child very much and would never leave her! If I do decide to go there she will go with me! As for being a homewrecker, I AM NOT! They had a bad marriage way before I ever came along. He was unhappy with her from the start or he would not have been on the internet talking in the first place.

This man and I started out just as friends. I was not looking for any type of a relationship. We have become very good friends and we just fell for each other. I dont know if you have ever experienced this before but it is wonderful to find someone that you have so much in common with, that makes you laugh and when you are apart from them it feels like a part of you is missing. By the way, LUST is not this! This relationship is not about LUST it is about LOVE. What happened to people not judging others! You do not know how I feel or what is really going on with me. I came here for some friendly advice on Turkish men's culture and to see if there was someone else that was going through, or had gone through, what I am right now. I thought women were supposed to be here for each other, not make rude comments about that persons life.

NO I am not a saint for this. I have never before been involved with a married man and would never of thought my self to do so. NEVER say NEVER! You do not control who you fall in love with. I did not even expect this to happen. It has though, and I cant help the way my heart feels.I am not trying to take away anyone's father! That is one of the reasons that if we do decide to go farther into this relationship that I said I would move there. I do not want to take his child from him and I do not want her to be without her father.

As for him wanting money from me or a visa to the USA. This is not true either. He is a doctor there and can provide for well for himself and has never even mentioned money to me. He does not want to even move to the USA for the reasons of his child and his career. Which I understand both of these and I do truly love him and would never ask him to give up his child! This relationship is new and we want to take it slow and get to know each other before makeing any drastic decisions on either one of our parts! That is why we are taking the time to know each other and in a year I have agreed to come for a visit! I have to take this chance though. This could be the love of my life and I cant just sit around and wonder later on what if?

The fact that he is married is hard but he is already not happy and neither am I. We found each other not looking for anything searious but it happend so what can I say! I have already told him that if we do decide to take this further after we meet that he will have to get a divorce to be with me and I will already be divorced at this time. I know all of these might not fit into the order that they should but, that is life! NOthing is perfect, nothing is planned, and NOTHING happens the way that you thought that is should!

There is a big age difference between us. I am 27 and he is 39. This does not matter to either of us because our minds match each other. It feels like we have known each other all of our lives and I have never felt this way for anyone before and I am not about to let a bunch of judemental women make me think any differently.

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