Lucy's story

Submitted by Mahira (Hungary), Mar 25, 2007 at 17:39

I had arabic boyfriend...

So some guy think that, he can does everything, but his girlfriend not... He never seen his mistakes. First time I didn't understand... This style was so new to me! When he said or did some not normally thing, he said all time: it was a test.

Example: he said to me, he waiting for a girl from ..., and that girl very important to him. "Want U know that girl?" He waited for my reaction... I did nothing, I said nothing. After 10 minutes he said, "U are not jealous?" He was surprised. About this, he said: "U don't love me".

I craved travel to somewhere, and try talk about this to him. So, he said: "I can't travel now" (didn't say why), but "U can travel alone!" I was very surprised, first time I said, "no, I don't travel without U"... He said, "yes, U can! U need rest, relax, U must travel"... After so many talk, I said, "OK, I'll travel alone". After this, he said: "U don't love me, because U want travel alone". It was a test.

I went sometimes dance lessons (only for women), and he ask me: "why do U this?" I ask him, "what?" He said: a normally girl don't dance... I said to him: "I love dance, I love the music, if I give it up, I'll depressived. I can't give up myself full." He said: "if U love me really, U don't think about give up - or not give up"

Firs time he said: "the religion is problem, U don't need change this"... Later he ask me very carefully (not wor in word): "U can change your religion?"

Firs time he was so patient, and gentle, and nice... He wait for that, I'll love him very much... and when I love him so much, I'll doing everything because of this relation... but I didn't. So, this man live in Europe since long-long time. He's full european, only this things are not... His dresses are new style, his flat modern, his friends are cosmopolitans, his speaking style young, he have so many funny things, but... for his girlfriend... It was hard to me, because I loved him so much. BUT: I can't give up myself fully! If somebody loves me really, he must accept some things...

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