Advice on Turkish bf's please

Submitted by Sophie (United Kingdom), Mar 26, 2007 at 19:30

I've known my turkish man for 6 months and we are getting on like a house on fire. The only problem is we have never met. Yep sounds like the same old 'oh i found a guy on the internet and he's great story'. I was very cynical about internet dating and all the hype that surrounds it. You hear of people who have chatted on the internet then meeting up and eventually getting married and then there are those stories where meeting up goes tragically wrong.

This is where my problem falls. My guy has been desperate to travel to england for the last month or so to meet me which i am really happy about. He even talks about the future like perhaps going on holiday in the summer and seeing a band in concert near christmas which all makes me feel like maybe i will know him for a long time to come. I get on so well with him and we talk on the phone and by internet everyday.

I think to myself surely if he is prepared to spend his money on travelling all the way over here and spending his holidays with me he must really like me. But i cant help doubting the situation. Being so far away makes it really hard to trust him and i am worried that if i meet him and really fall for him i might get my heart broken. I am so desperate to see him but i just dont know if meeting him is the right thing. I feel ready to spend time with him and see the personality which i have grown to love in reality. I just really need some advice.

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