to a concerned muslim american and steph

Submitted by Amanda (United States), Mar 27, 2007 at 21:40

First off let ME set the record straight! I am not just going to drag my daughter off to another country without first getting to know this man. I am going to meet with him after I get my divorce in a year. I will leave my daughter here in the USA for a week with her father or her grandmother to go and spend a few days with this man. I would not risk my childs life I do have more sense than that. We are going to be talking for a year before I am going to be able to even go for a visit so I figure in a year we will know a lot about each other. As for the comment about him not having anything and being dirt poor and wanting a free ticket to America this is not true. He in fact has his own car and lives in Ankara Turkey. Things are more up to date and moderate there.

How can all of you be so judgemental. I am not judging any of you for your way of life. No I dont know if he is in fact going to leave his wife but I do care a great deal for this man and if it comes down to him leaving and us starting a life together that is great and if he does not leave his wife and decided to stay, well life goes on and so will I.

I will not sit around for the rest of my life wondering if this was my one true love and I let it pass me by. I will go and find out in a year if he is infact the one. I hope and pray that he is because my heart will be broken if not. Even though this is a very risky situation for my heart to bear I must do it!

I never said that it was rite for me to be in love with a married man but it happened and I cant stop my feelings now. I have told him that before anything can be with us that he must leave his wife and we have both agreed that once we meet in a year that if things are as strong between us as they are now that we will take those steps when the time comes. As for my daughter's father he could care less about me or her so that should be obvious that things are not so good between us as to why I am looking for love some place elce. Her father and I have talked about divorce and he stated to me that if we did divorce that he would not even want to see his daughter so I dont believe that us going to another country is going to matter. Things are still new and fresh and no one knows where this is going to take me. I am not jumping into anything with this man I am going to take my time and get to know all about him first. I will be sure about him before I bring my daughter into the picture.

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