Response to Michaela

Submitted by Ami (United States), Mar 27, 2007 at 21:56

Trust your gut - how often do you talk? Do you talk about substantive issues - like did you mention that you "may" want to live in Morocco, and may want to wait to have children? Moroccans are very family oriented, so I would not be surprised to hear that he wants children right away.

You are the first person on these comments that had the same experience that I did. I met someone in Morocco and have been in constant contact and back to visit (have met his mother and best friend - who is engaged to a woman from Spain). He mentioned other girls and "is done with that." He would never ask for money and I would not offer. We talk about all sorts of things - jobs, saving money, children, etc. If all he wanted was a VISA, I think he'd go for a Spanish girl, as his friends all date or are married to Spanish women. I have trusted my gut so far and think I am good, but if something changes (behaviors, etc), I will stop the relationship.

BTW - I was also on train with a girl and her mother who talked about the brother having married a girl from FLA and how much they loved her (but missed the brother) - they met over the Internet so that can work too.

It is so commonplace in Morocco now for men and women to have foreign boyfriends/girlfriends that I don't think they think twice about it. I wonder why these men want to move so quickly on marriage- but just force him to be patient and make yourself more comfortable. You're only 21, so take at least a year (before wedding) to become comfortable.

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