American Married To Turk

Submitted by Sarah (United States), Apr 2, 2007 at 16:57

I am a 29 year old American married to a Turkish man of the same age. We dated for three years before we got married, and I forced myself to overlook his BS and I married him. Well, I was an idiot. It was a total mistake.

We are now getting divorced, and we have a two year old child. This is an intelligent, educated person. He is not religious in any way. He is jealous, possessive, controlling, and above all, just really nasty to me. My family, my friends, even my dog..they all hate him. I alienated everyone just to be with him. Thank goodness I woke up.

I left him, and now I am living on my own waiting for my divorce to be finalized. I'm not saying he was the way he was because of his nationality, since people everywhere can be major a-holes, but there were definitely certain cultural differences that contributed to his feelings of superiority and dominance. If anyone is or has been in a similar situation, I'm all ears..or if you are contemplating entering a similar situation and need any advice..let me know. And this is in no way to denigrate Turkish or Muslim people...I have met some really awesome Turkish people..this is my own negative experience (through my own doing) with someone who happens to be Turkish.

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