Turkey- change of heart

Submitted by melungeongirl (Turkey), Apr 20, 2007 at 09:17

Hi Maryann,

I was going to email you but I feel safer on here. I am not sure who will read my email. My thoughts about my boyfriend and Turkey have drastically changed since my first few posts. I am sure I will get a lot of slack from some, but I am entitled to my own opinion

My thoughts are a lot of foreigners who come to America seem to think ,when in Rome do as the Romans. But be certain when they go back to where they're from its back to life as usual. Maybe your life would be happy if your fiance moved to the US., as mine once was, but now that we are in Turkey, no longer am I happy.

I am being conformed into what my boyfriend considers a good future wife. Which basically means I am turning into a Turkish woman.

I dont care what anyone else says or how their men are in America. In Turkey it is a different story. If your fiance turns out to be different thanks God. I see the look on the Turkish women's faces, now my face has this same look. America is not liked here, nor are Christians.

Yes you may be tolerated, some may put on a happy face for you, but inside they will still detest you and everything you stand for. A couple of days ago 3 Christian missionaries were murdered here. They were going to give Bibles written in Turkish. As they brought the dead men out of the bookstore some young Turks chanted something in the name of Allah. As I watched on the news in horror, I looked at my boyfriend who began chanting with them.

He turned to me and said they had no business spreading their propaganda here anyway. We are 99% Muslims. From what I gather the view is America is a dictator to the entire world. Our motto is do as we say or we will destroy you, we are bullies, if you will. There seems to be sympathy for those who go against us and wish to bring us down a peg or two. Even if they are terrorists.

Now I could go into politics but I will refrain.The point I am trying to make is your fiance may indeed be the best man in the world, but is he worth you leaving your country to come to Turkey? There are a lot of things I just really want you to think about. Ask him a lot of questions, see what his thoughts are about your Christianity. Ask him his thoughts on America, our people, our government.

If he still is what you want, then think about life in Turkey and ask yourself, will you be able to deal with life here, knowing that most likely you will lose your true identity, the very things that make you, you.

I cant began to tell you the crap I have had to put up with. Luckily my visa will be up soon.

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