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Submitted by marian (United Kingdom), Apr 21, 2007 at 22:25

Hello Brenda,

so sorry to hear about your shattered dreams ,i felt so sorry especially as you took the relatinship so seriously. It has made me question my (wonderful ) relationship. Like you, i am so happy with my moroccan man. I too am regarded as his wife ,he calls me wife. He told me that if he had money, he would share it with me, infact he would share everything with me .

I did'nt comment because i didn't want to put myself in the position of having to keep him and his mum... I too love him dearly ,somtimes i feel so very hurt because suddenly i feel as though he is putting a distance between us ,my fault really as i have promised him that i will go accross to him in Morocco at least twice, but i too have to be careful the way i spend my money as i live alone and have a part time job.

He is becoming distant towards me as he would like to marry me in June , i have firmly told him "i have to get to know him better before i can commit myself to marriage" He says he is a poor man ,and there is no money in Morocco,and no jobs ,but i get a little confused as he wears lovely clothes and lovely coats. i see this on the computer.

My man has told me that his ex usa girlfriend bought him the computer and sent money and gifts to him . This made me feel awkward as i could'nt posssibly send him money and gifts and clothes. Anyway, i have known him nine months now , and said to him that i will consider marriage in twelve months time. he does'nt like this and puts the pressure on, but i won't tolerate anymore pressure. i have refused to even discuss it with him.

He has told me that he won't wait one year i have to get the documents sorted out for June when i visit Morocco. . I have refused .I was so intrigued with your letter Brenda as it read like my man .

Can i ask you please, have you a little girl ,as i know that his ex usa girlfriend had a little girl, and that was the reason told to Mohamed of why she couldn't marry him for two to three years .I would love you to reply to these comments.

Once again i so sorry that your relationship didn't work out for you. Take care, and god bless. Love Marian.

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