Be wise

Submitted by chica (Sweden), Apr 23, 2007 at 05:07

just a comment on what to expect from a muslim and turkish man...

i can begin by saying that i have not been in a relationship with a muslim man, nor with a turk, but i know that being with someone who does not share your faith is hard enough. i was in a serious relationship with a western man who was an atheist, and believe me, it was too hard in the end. regardless if you're muslim, hindu or an atheist, the issues are the same.

will he go with you to church? will he be ok with you going to church on a regular basis without him & without getting grumpy? if you have children, will he allow you to raise them to become christians? what about traditions such as christmas and easter? does he mock christianity? will he encourage you to grow in faith if that is what you want? being christian is not about being religious, as you said, it's about living according to how god wants you to live, and living according to god's wishes is so hard regardless if your partner is christian or not. to live with a muslim man will only make it harder for you.

the fact that he is from turkey also brings the cultural differences to the table. what are his views on a woman's role in the home and outside the home? what kind of woman does he want to have? there might be some sacrifices you may have to do. this i know because i'm dating a christian syrian man whose culture is much different from mine.

i'd sugges you go to a minister, or an imam, or someone knowledgeable and wise to discuss the difficulties you will face, because you will face them. then, pray and ask for guidance.

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