Amanda, you are selfish

Submitted by Charlotte (United States), Apr 24, 2007 at 05:57

Just because you fell in love does not give you the right to act on those feelings. Your desire for a man should come SECOND to a child's need for a father. I shouldn't have to tell you this, this should already be set principles by your age.

I understand you don't want to be attacked, but frankly, you are getting off easy for what you & this man are doing to the innocent family. You are plotting to forever psychologically destroy his child and his soon to be ex out of sheer selfishness. No amount of your desire or "what ifs" is worth the forever trauma you will be giving to a child. You are both incredibly selfish beings, and you refuse to own that.

The over wehlming majority of men have the desire to stray, this doesn't mean the women they target have to sacrifice their self respect and ethics to satisfy his wander lust. Women know this about men and as such we have a duty to our fellow women and to their offspring, as nurturers of the species, to keep our legs closed when married men look to stray. The ones who fail to do this should expect to be admonished and loathed for their piggotry. No amount of your whining about how you "love him" makes your terrible misdeed more acceptable. A child's question of "what if my daddy stayed" is ten times more paramount than your ponderings.

You don't have the foresight to realize this, neither did you have the foresight to see how others would respond to your admission. Your defense of your selfishness runs so deep you even plead with the "ladies" demanding we support you and be non judgmental. No way Amanda, you aren't a lady, don't attempt to appeal to me as a peer. You are a home wrecker, and you shall be judged as such; hence, I will give you as much "support" as you warrant: none.

Furthermore, for your own sake (since you think in egotist terms) what makes you think that he will value you in a few years time since you have less bind to him then his current wife (who gave him a child and a decade of time, family relations, etc.)? Whether you want to believe it or not, you are no more special then his current mate, less so, in fact. You are merely the current goal and can just as easily be replaced, your inflated ego won't allow you to see that.

If you had any humility you would dump this man and tell him to deal with his family on his own accord and don't bother to look you up unless he seeks a divorce on personal grounds (without your influence). Its one of the few options you have left to retaining some dignity. Otherwise his child will always view you as a homewrecker along with his family and when you grow up and realize what you did you will have a hard time looking in the mirror.

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