STEPH

Submitted by Donna (United States), Apr 29, 2007 at 19:17

I didn't have any advantages Steph. I lived in rural oklahoma, no car, no phone, no pc. When my abusive husband went to work, I walked 5 miles with a 9 year old, and a 8 month old on my hip. I used a phone, called social services and they called a shelter. They came and picked me up, and had everything I needed or wanted out of the house before he got home.

I was also given an order of protection because I felt like he was a threat to my children and myself. I stayed in a home with a family I had never met before that was 100 miles away from where I had been living. They were nice people. I looked for work while my daughter was in school, and social services paid for daycare for my 8 month old. I found a job, saved money, and eventually moved out on my own.

After that, I worked and went to night school 3 days a week until I got my degree. It took 6 years, but it was well worth it. My daughter is now 23 years old and says that what I done saved her from being a timid woman that would take abuse. She is a college graduate, married, and now about to start a family of her own. My son, he is 15, does great in school, and has the respect for women that young men, and men of all ages should have.

You are setting your daughter up for a lifetime of pain and suffering. You need to leave, stop thinking about yourself and get into a safe house. I have read where you said the shelter wouldnt take you. Call a church or other womens organizations. They realize that abuse continues to get worse and they wil not leave you in that situation.

There was no way in hell that I was allowing my children to grow up in that kind of enviroment. I was not allowing my daughter to think being screamed at 24 hours a day, and slapped around if I opened my mouth was the way life was suppose to be. I wasnt allowing my son to grow up thinking he should treat women the way his dad did.

You can make up all the excuses you want to and feel sorry for yourself, but it comes down to what you want for your child.

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