To maryann

Submitted by gardenia (Canada), May 20, 2007 at 15:16

I met and married my Turkish Muslim husband in 2003. I really felt loved by him in the beginning. I was protestant and I converted to Islam in 2005. He never pressured me outright to become Muslim, however he gave subtle hints and comments that alluded to that fact.

He then started to disrespect me by not showing interest in me and my feelings and needs. To make a long story short, he used me to get his permanent residence status in Canada.

We separated a few times and finally in July 0f 2006, when he realiized that he could no longer control me and change me into the perfect little wife he wanted, he left me in the middle of the night with no money and left me a note basically saying that it was over. I felt so used. It has taken me ten months to even begin to start over.

Not all Turkish men are bad. I have met some really kind and gentle, respectful ones, and it has nothing to do with Islam, which is a beautiful and misunderstood religion. Just don't let him pressure you into a marriage when you are not ready, hold out for the white dress and get married with your friends and family. If he really loves you he will do it right. Oh, and does he have a Visa? If not just be cautious.

Think with your head not just your heart! Good luck.

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