About Moroccan Men

Submitted by gardenia (Canada), May 22, 2007 at 03:54

I recently met a Moroccan man online and we talk maybe 3 times a week. Not long after we started talking he told me that he really likes me and has said he would like to marry me. Now, the feelings seem to be deepening.

I am separated from my husband and I told him although that was flattering, I am still married, and even if I was divorced I still wouldn't do it. It is unrealistic to marry someone you haven't even met. Talking online is much diferent than talking in person. I really like him and we have some things in common. Honestly, I feel guilty even talking to him because I am not divorced yet. Now ,he isn't mentioning marriage and says he understands my decision, but tells me he can see us together and how it must be fate and that Allah has brought us together. I don't feel like he is pressuring me at all, but I also don't know if he is just telling me what he thinks I want to hear.

My husband is a Turkish Muslim who was abusive and used me for his Permanent Residency. I was very hurt and felt very used. I swore that I would never let that happen again. I have heard a lot of negative things about Moroccan men, but they can't all be bad. I want to trust him, but it is difficult. I don't want to let my lonliness cloud my judgement. And, I don't want to let an opportunity pass by, if he turns out to be a genuine guy.

When I first met him online he wasn't working and seemed very unhappy. ..the red flags went up. I figured he was looking for a woman to marry so he can escape the hardship of his country. Now, he is working 6 nights a week and does not mention coming to my country or giving him money (which I wouldn't do anyway). We have really nice conversations and I am very attracted to him. I know that you don't know this man, but, can you give me some insight from a man's perspective. I would appreciate it. thanks.

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