Steph

Submitted by A. Josh (United States), May 25, 2007 at 08:01

Actually i am a college student who used this site for research. I see you must be paranoid about Donna. You have such distaste and disregard for anyone here that offers you advice.

I have a few questions that you dont have to answer for me, but more so for yourself. I think you should give your answers thought. Real answers, not just fired off crack answers.

1. Why do you constantly post here, yet you dont even take your own advice?

2. There have been several people here who have given you advice on leaving, and at least one that has stated she offered you a place to stay. Why do you not take it? Saying the person is a stranger is not an acceptable answer, since obviously your husband is also a stranger. Certainly you did not marry the man you speak about here.

3. Have you ever considered your husband's thoughts concerning you? Its not often abusive men allow an abused wife free access to sources outside of the home. In my opinion, he must view you as being a very weak person and does not fear any relatiation from you.

4. Do you realize the longer you are in the home, the more likely it is that your child will eventually see you as being the bad partner in the marriage, and that when you leave, she may be given the opportunity to choose which parent she remains with? I have seen you mention brain washing, yet you dont apply it to your situation.

5. Posting on this site seems to have become your way of blowing off anger that should be directed at your husband. Yes, its a form of therapy, but in many cases, you are not talking about your experience, you are blaming a world of people, and in many cases, you direct hateful comments to people who state they have a good relationhip with a man, or woman. Why do you feel the need to view everyones relationhip to be as yours? Does it reinforce your thoughts about your husband? Its interesting that you feel you can save the world, yet you dont want to save yourself.

6. Why have you allowed 15 years to pass by, and not done anything to improve your situation? Do you feel you deserve the abuse?

My advice is that you should see a therapist. Its obvious that your anger is not enough to make you leave this man. Maybe if you work on your self esteem and get to the real reasons you stay, you will be able to see them for what they are, and that not only you, but your daugther also deserves better. You come here and post, because you enjoy the attention and pity people feel for you. More so, for you to read that someone else has a marriage like yours, it seems to give you a false sense of righteousness and self worth. Its not a healthy mind that wishes abuse on other people.

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