Islamic Divorces vs oppression

Submitted by Taz (United States), May 26, 2007 at 16:22

Hi

I have been attempting to acquire my "talaaq" which means divorce for a number of years now.

I have come to a point that I no longer can tolerate this. Thus, I am now seeking assistance elswhere just to gain fairness in this regard.

I am being oppressed by this religion (or at least by the MEN)

Someone out there must be able to be reasonable and see the logic in my situation. If they claim that islam is a religion of equality, fairness and integrity. Why am I not able to get my freedom?

Here is my story:

I am a 36 year old female who have seeked a Talaaq in Feb 2007 for 2nd time. The previous time was in 2004. The man I Nikkah (married) in 2000 has refused and we have been separated since 2004. There are two girls born of this (marriage)nikka. My application of 2007 was submitted for an annulment, which was not granted. I have requested the reasons for this decision and was told that "as long as the husband wants to reconcile with his wife, he has no grounds to annul the marriage"

My reasons given are:

1. He drinks and spends his time on alcohol and friends
2. He does not follow the way of Islam
3. He does not maintain his family financially or emotionally
4. He abuses us
5. He uses witchcraft

There is currently a retraining order existing for his unethical behavior.

I feel that I am being discriminated against and that I am being oppressed.

How can the judicial council make a decision like this? Am I to continue to be abused and am I expected to support this man and his habits as mentioned above.

What about the well-being of my children? What about my rights?

Islam is supposed to be a religion of equality, fairness, and integrity.
Although it also states: "keep with principal or release with principle"

All the calls made to the Jamiat in Fordburg has been recorded for my benefit as it seems that I am not given any benefit of the doubt. I am expected to reconcile with a man I do not LOVE. I only have hatred for this man. The Mufti is aware of the recordings as has advised that I will not publish it. However, on legal advice, in a matter of seeking guidance and help, any indivitual may listen to these recordings.

P.S when this decision was made, I was not there to represent myself, nor was anyone there to present on my behalf. This decision was made without me.

Desperate for FREEDOM.

South Africa

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