confused- muslim man

Submitted by kris (United States), May 29, 2007 at 12:37

I MET A MUSLIM MAN ON THE INTERNET. HE IS FROM MALAYSIA. BUT HE HAS BEEN IN THE US FOR ABOUT 20 YEARS NOW. I MOVED 3000 MILES AWAY FROM MY FAMILY TO BE WITH HIM. WE DATED LONG DISTANCE FOR ABOUT 2 YEARS. I ALSO HAVE A 9 YEAR OLD SON FROM A PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP.

SINCE I HAVE MOVED IN WITH HIM. HE IS TOTALLY CONTROLLING. MY SON IS VERY MUCH A SPORTS PERSON. I CANNOT EVEN TAKE HIM TO THE PARK TO PLAY WITHOUT BEING ACCUSED OF TRYING TO START TROUBLE. I CANNOT DO ANYTHING WITHOUT HIS PERMISSION. WE ARE NOT EVEN MARRIED. HE BOUGHT ME A LOT OF JEWELRY AND TOOK IT FROM ME AND TOLD ME I DON'T DESERVE IT. HE ALSO CALLS MY SON VERY VULGAR NAMES.

I AM PLANNING ON LEAVING AS SOON AS SCHOOL IS OUT. THAT IS A COUPLE OF WEEKS YET. MY DAD TELLS ME HE DOESN'T WANT TO GET A PHONE CALL SAYING I OR MY SON IS DEAD. I ALSO CANNOT KEEP A JOB WITH HIM. HE WILL GET MAD AT ME AND LOCK THE CAR UP AND TELL ME I AM NOT TAKING YOU TO WORK. THEN HE COMPLAINS ABOUT EVERYTHING. I HAVE NOT CELEBRATED ANY OF MY HOLIDAYS SINCE I MOVED OUT HERE. HE DOES NOT ALLOW IT.

I CANNOT GO ANYWHERE WITH OUT HIS PERMISSION. HE SAYS IF I GO ANYWHERE WITH OUT HIM HE WILL LOCK ME OUT OF THE HOUSE. HE GETS MAD IF I SPEND ANY TIME WITH MY SON. MIND YOU HE DOES NOTHING WITH HIM. HE TELLS ME I SHOULD IGNORE HIM. I HAVE MY OWN LIFE. HE HAS LIED TO ME ABOUT BEING MARRIED AND HAVING KIDS. HE SAID HE IS GETTING DIVORCED BUT I DON;T KNOW IF I BELIEVE HIM. I KNOW IF I STAY WITH HIM I WILL NEVER HAVE A PEACEFUL LIFE. DOES ANYBODY HAVE ANY GOOD ADVICE? i REALLY NEED IT.

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