American married to Muslim man

Submitted by Kim (United States), Jun 12, 2007 at 13:35

My heart really feels for all of these women who have married men who have turned out to be oppressors and abusers. Not every woman married to a Muslim man has the same experiences. My husband is Muslim and we have been married for 2 years, together for 3 years. He is very religious and committed to Islam. However, he is equally committed to me, his wife. We have a baby girl, who he loves and adores. He is a hard-working and loving father. I have never felt that my child was more important to him than I am. He likes to remind me of a lesson his father taught him from childhood: "My wife is more important to me than any other people in my life."

What a lot of the women have written on this site has some ring of truth, such as the fact that we do send money back to his family in Jordan. I do this willingly, lovingly because this family has treated me with utmost love and respect. The money we send is never at the expense of our own family's household budget.

By being married to my Muslim husband, I feel secure in the knowledge that he's not out drinking with his buddies, looking for other women, gambling our savings away, etc. He is a good and just man who has never become violent in any way. It is true that we have ahd our share of fights and we have had many cultural differences to negotatiate and work through. However, we are able to resolve differences and make compromises out of the love and respect we have for one anotheer.

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