you are right

Submitted by sue Ward (United States), Jun 13, 2007 at 10:35

I have travelled extensively in Egypt for the last 12yrs. I have friends there, very westernised, untill it comes to their women! They drink, smoke and swear just like us, however as soon as it comes to their wife, this is a no no! Their women are segregated from men at functions, they make sure their wives hair and bodies are covered up.

Even the most westernised of my friends, ask their mother to arrange their marriages, usually to a cousin. The younger ones are marrying westerners, however they still ask their wives to convert to Islam and cover up. Before they marry them they take them home to meet mum, if she disapproves that's it. They talk about how their fathers treat their mothers, which is badly, they are not happy about it, but accept it.

One of my friends is married with a young son, he is in his late 30's and admits to having had 27 western women and even now has sex/affairs, while his wife lives back at their flat above his parents. His mother keeps an eye on his wife to make sure she is not unfaithful! Dual standards apply here. He always tells the women he is going with he swears on Allah that he is not married, when he is.

He once waited 12months to have sex with one women, he would text, call her etc. Every month he went back to his wife. I asked why? His response because he wanted this westerner, he fancied her! He had to show he was patient and loved her to get her into bed. When he did have sex with her, he did not want her anymore. Men in that part of the country believe it is their right to have what they want. Another of my friends arranges tours, he thinks nothing of having 2-3+ different women a night, the tales he has told me about how arab men justify all their lies would make you die. He comes from Luxor, I have been there many times.

We were talking about all the old women with 18 year old boys on their arms. I asked him did'nt it turn his stomach, it sure as hell turned mine. His response, no it was fine, man get sex, just close your eyes you not see face. Sex is sex, as long as man satisified it was ok. He told me how they identify a woman that they can go after, and boy do they go after them!! I was stunned by some of their tricks, and believe me I have seen most things or heard them.

I have met some men who are faithful to thier wives, but that is usually because the novelty has not worn off their marriages yet. Mark you are so right in what you have written. I think you are a very brave man to have written that. As they say, you can take the man out of the country, you can't take the country out of the man. When I ask them what would you mum say? Nothing she will want what I want. Women are nothing, men rule the roost. I have seen a lot of Russian brides with arabic men, they walk behind their man with head/eyes downcast, arms & legs covered up, and these are the young generation.

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