I agree to you Syed Rafey Husain

Submitted by naveed (Pakistan), Apr 26, 2009 at 15:55

thing is not only the concept of having sex before marriage has to be terminated to eradicate the evils that have become a part of almost all societies in modren times but in fact there is a big big need to understand that one can carry on education, business traning etc etc even after the marriage . marriage do not stop you from having education or go to school etc. But there is a big need to teaching that out to the people. And this is a fect that mental maturity has a delayed behavior in modren time w.r.t the phisical maturity .

and if you know the history or are keep to do a research that has happend first time to humans in 200,000 history hence this is a mis match. this needs to be corrected before we can consume marriage at puberty as a normal practice. What about having a subject as Marriage studies rather then Sex studies in the schools? . this will change a lot. but if a girl is not mentaly mature or i-e she is not taught from the childhood about the marriage and she do not know the rights and responsiblities, then it is against Islam if you marriage her at puberty .

The main difference to know is that 1400 or even 100 years back girls and boys do not used to grow up watching lala and po on the cartoon network but they used to move into the era of active persons of society at the age of 7 to 8 and also continue their studies (look at many great people in history and you will know)and hence they become mentally mature at the age of 10 or 12 (and if you go back to 1000 years may be 8 or 9) and hance ready for marriage .

Also when people say that Prophet Muhhamad (PBUH) Married a girl who was 9 and had just reached the pubety they must keep 2 things in mind. 1-He himself was a business man at the age of 8 ,and many muslims in history have been active citizens at very low age (muhamad bin Qasim great conqueror of Sindh was 17 when he lead an army of hundreds far from home land can a boy of 17 thing to do this now?).

2-It was a social norm in premodern times even in the modren times like in 1880. and since now shows that if we tend to make our girls and boys mentaly mature till the reach pubety and marry them (note pushing them helping them to mentally mature is the first condition) then there will be thousands of bad things and evils that will get removed automaticaly.

but if we can not make them mature till pubety (because schooling system is not good) then there is no reason and Islam do not allow them to marry off at pubety (note if they are not mentally mature) and it is the duty of the society as total (particularly Father of Girl) to see and testify that either the marrying cuple is mentally mature or not . According to Islam if the Father and Society are not making sure this they are commiting a sin and will be punished at the day of judjement and this is the duty of all other muslims to make sure that people do not marry until they reach the mental maturity or they will be liable to answer Allah at the end.

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